Posted by Fatboy on March 03, 2010 at 10:24 [71.193.64.243]
In Reply to: Level of acceptance from partner posted by Question on March 03, 2010 at 08:05
First of all, good for you! It is very kind of you to take the time now to decide these things rather than after you are married and "possibly" making each other miserable. Of course you may have no issues with it later, it's just good to figure it out before hand.
This is an extremely selfish kind of fetish. When it is incorporated into the intimacy of a relationship it is all about you. If you find a partner who cares enough about you to be a part of that, well amen and thank what ever deity you pray to. But here is the thing, YOU have to care about your partner enough to NOT be selfish. You need to be able to put it away and focus completely on them as often, or preferable more often than when you are in diapers, etc.
I think it was best said, "You know it is true love when your happiness is predicated on there's."
So, My wife loves me so much that she will participate in any way I ask her, and I love her so much that I don't ask because I know she doesn't like it. Sometimes she will, out of the blue, do all the fetish related things I enjoy. Those surprises are awesome. In return I use all me skills to make the neighbors think she likes to pray at the top of her voice!
This is what works for us, but it was ALL about communication, compromise and our love for each other.
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